The Story of You – Type Eight - The Challenger
Ice Breaker
Other than family members, who was your best childhood friend? Describe your friendship.
This week’s sermon was focused on Jonathan as an example of the Enneagram Type 8 – The Challenger. The following questions are to help us understand The Challenger, ourselves and God better.
From Biblical Passages concerning Jonathan and David which Healthy traits of a Challenger does Jonathan demonstrate?
(Read each passage or it’s summary and consider which trait or traits are demonstrated in that passage from the sermon notes)
Summary of Biblical Passage
1 Samuel 13:1-3 – Shortly after Saul becomes king, Jonathan leads 3000 men into battle against the Philistines.
1 Samuel 14:1-14 – Jonathan and his armor bearer climb a cliff when challenged and take a stronghold from the Philistines.
1 Samuel 18:1-4 – David, after defeating Goliath and the Philistines, returns to Saul. Jonathan makes a covenant with David to protect him and be his friend.
1 Samuel 19:1-7 – Jonathan warns David that his father wants to kill him. Jonathan then confronts his father with the truth of David to persuade him. This time Jonathan convinces his dad not to kill David.
1 Samuel 20:1-23 – David comes to Jonathan again concerning the King wanting to kill David. Jonathan does not want to believe it but promises to find out. The two make a plan to find out and to help David escape if it is true.
1 Samuel 20:16 – Jonathan and David recommit to each other.
1 Samuel 20:27-34 – Saul becomes angry that David is not there and that Jonathan had protected David. Saul threw his spear at his son, Jonathan.
1 Samuel 20:35-42 – Jonathan helps David escape. The two strengthen their commitment beyond each other to their descendants.
1 Samuel 23:15-18 – Jonathan encourages David while on the run and renews his covenant with David, promising to support David as King when that happens.
Healthy Traits of a Challenger from Sermon Notes
The Challenger reflects God’s Power.
Challengers know what is right & wrong & what they need to do.
The Challenger wants to see the world be more just.
Eights communicate directly.
Lead and influence others and get things done.
Protective of those they see as vulnerable.
The Challenger is always in pursuit of tenderness and mercy.
Does not need to be the top dog.
- What is the power of God? (Genesis 1; Psalm 62:11, Psalm 68:34-35; Isaiah 48:12-13; Matthew 28:18; Luke 11:20; Romans 1:16, 20; 1 Samuel 14:6; Ephesians 6:10; 1 Peter 3:18)
- How would you describe the friendship between David and Jonathan? What qualities make for a good friendship? (Eccl 4:9-12; Amos 3:3; Romans 15:1-2; Gal 6:1-2; 2 Corinthians 13:11; 1 Th 5:11)
- In what ways does the Challenger benefit the body of Christ?
Samson was mentioned as an unhealthy Challenger. From what you know about Samson, in what ways does he represent the unhealthy challenger.
(Read each passage or it’s summary and consider which trait or traits are demonstrated in that passage from the sermon notes)
Summary of Biblical Passage
Judges 14:1-4 – Samson sees a Philistine woman he wants to marry instead of someone from Israel.
Judges 14:10-20 – Samson bet his 30 Philistine companions prior to the wedding that they could not solve a riddle. They could not solve it so they ask Samson’s new wife to find out. When they guessed right, Samson became angry and killed 30 men in Ashkelon to pay back the debt.
Judges 15:1-5 – Samson’s new wife was given to his attendant and Samson became so angry that he caught 300 foxes tied them tail to tail, fastened a torch to them to burn the wheat fields, vineyards and olive groves of the Philistines.
Judges 15:11-15 – Samson agrees to be handed over to the Philistines bound by rope. He breaks the rope and takes vengeance on the Philistines.
Judges 16:1-21 – Samson falls in love with Delilah. The Philistines convince her to find out the secret to his power. He lies to her several times. On the fourth try she gets to the truth and Samson is captured.
Judges 16:23-30 – During a festival, the Philistines chained Samson between two columns on the roof of a temple. 3000 people were killed when Samson asked God for his strength to collapse the temple.
Unhealthy Traits of a Challenger from Sermon Notes
The Challenger’s core sin: Lust.
The Challenger’s core need is being in control.
The Challenger’s core fear is being exposed.
Use power to dominate others to get things done their way.
The challenger avoids being vulnerable.
Can become forceful, insensitive or combative.
Relationally clueless.
Doesn’t see the value, opinions and experiences of others.
- The Biblical definition of lust is evil desire. Why is lust a problem Biblically and what can be lusted after? (Gen 3:6; James 1:14-15; Exodus 20:17; Matthew 5:28; Mark 4:19; 1Timothy 6:9; James 4:1-3)
- What should be our response to our evil desires? (Ephesians 4:22; Galatian 5:22-23; 2 Timothy 2:22; Titus 2:11-13, John 2:17, Matthew 6:13, James 4:7-8)
- (Personal) Consider how lust plays a part in your life and what you can do to gain self-control over it? (2 Peter 1:3-8) Consider who you can trust to pray with you and hold you accountable for it. (1 Thessalonians 5:11; James 5:16; Ecclesiastes 4:10)
From Sermon Notes: The Challenger’s core sin: Lust. The Challenger’s core need is being in control. How do you need to be real with self and God? Extend mercy and be peace-loving.
- If you are an eight what can you do to temper the need to be in control so not to abuse or dominate others? If you are not a Challenger how can you help them to consider extending mercy and peace? (James 3:17-18: Micah 6:8)
How do I love a CHALLENGER?
- Notice when they are tender, but don’t flatter them.
- Speak directly.
- Stand up for yourself and for them when they’re right.
- Don’t assume they meant to be hurtful.
Praise God for eights because: You see what needs to be accomplished. You are willing to lead and influence others to get things done without needing to be in charge. You are direct and provide the control necessary to be successful. You defend and challenge us. We need you to fight the battles that God puts in front of us. When healthy you seek a just outcome to issues and consider the needs of the vulnerable. You help us to find strength in God even when others may lose resolve.
The story of you only makes sense within the big story of God.
Note to Leaders: The scripture references in (parenthesis) are intended to support and inform the questions. However, you do not need to look up every verse, use them as best fits you and your circle.
The Story of You - Type 7 - The Enthusiast
Note to Leaders: The scripture references (in parenthesis) are intended to support and inform the questions. However, you do not need to look up every verse. Use them as best fits you and your Circle.
Ice Breaker
What is the best or most unusual parade you have been to? Or what is your favorite parade you’ve seen on TV? What made it special?
Read 2 Samuel 6:12-23
- What is the Ark of God? (Exodus 25:10-22, 26:33; Judges 20:27; Hebrews 9:4)
- Describe the mood of David and the people with David. What was the reason for his joy?
- In what ways did David worship the Lord?
- Is there an appropriate way to worship God? (Deuteronomy 6:5; Psalm 149:1-5, Psalm 150:1-6) Is there an inappropriate way?
- Why do you think Michal reacted negatively to David’s worship celebration?
This week’s sermon was focused on David as an example of the Enneagram Type 7 – The Enthusiast. The following questions are to help us understand The Enthusiast, ourselves and God better.
From Sermon Notes: The Enthusiast reflects God’s joy. The Enthusiast wants to experience pleasure and avoid pain. The Enthusiast is able to bring and/or find joy in all situations.
JOY (שִׂמְחָה, simchah; χαρά, chara). Closely related to gladness and happiness, although joy is more a state of being than an emotion; a result of choice. Having joy is part of the experience of being a Christian. (Lexham Bible Dictionary, 2016)
- What gives God joy? (Luke 15:10, Hebrews 11:5-6, Proverbs 15:8, Psalm 149:4, 1 Chronicles 29:17)
- Much of the book of Psalms was written by David; from these verses how does David express his joy in the Lord? (Psalm 5:11-12; 16:11; 20:5; 27:6; 28:7; 33;1-3 and many more.)
- Where does our joy come from? (Ecclesiastes 2:26, Psalm 4:7; Jeremiah 15:16; Galatians 5:22)
- What are reasons Christians should express their joy to God? (Psalm 149:2; Luke 6:22-23; 10:20; Psalm 28:7; Acts 15:3; Romans 5:11; and others)
- What are ways you express your joy to the Lord?
From Sermon Notes: When Healthy, Enthusiasts: Are visionary, versatile and resilient, helping to inspire people and projects; Engaging and fun, desiring to make the world a more joy-filled place. The Enthusiast’s core need is to Be Free.
- From 2 Samuel 6:12-23 and from what you know about David and his psalms, how does he represent the Healthy Enthusiast?
- In what ways does the Enthusiast benefit the body of Christ?
From Sermon Notes: When Unhealthy, Enthusiasts: Pleasure dictates their life choices. Escape pain at all costs. Can become impulsive, reckless, and behave irresponsibly.
- Read 2 Samuel 11:1-17 – How do the events resulting in the death of Uriah the Hittite show that David as an unhealthy Enthusiast?
- How did David respond when Nathan the prophet confronted David with his sin? (2 Samuel 12:7-9, 13; Psalm 51:1-12)
- What should be our response when we make poor life choices and become impulsive, reckless, irresponsible and sinful? (Psalm 32:2-5, Proverbs 28:13, Matthew 5:23-24; James 5:16; 1 John 1:9)
From Sermon Notes: The Enthusiast’s core sin: Gluttony. The Enthusiast’s core fear is being deprived or trapped. How do you need to be real with self and God? Practice contentment by learning to reflect and thank God for what He has done.
- What is the value of godly contentment in our lives? (1 Timothy 6:6, Hebrews 13:5, Philippians 4:11-13)
How do I love an ENTHUSIAST?
- Give them lots of room to play.
- Recognize when they choose to deal with problems.
- Share how much joy they bring to your life.
- Join in the fun.
Praise God for Sevens because: You make church and ministry enjoyable. When healthy, you are able to bring or find joy in all situations. You see the possibilities and will pursue your vision freely and with enthusiasm. When necessary you will seek to release stress through humor and an optimistic point of view. You attract and encourage others to work to make the world a better place and you are content to do whatever role is required for the team.
The story of you only makes sense within the big story of God.
The Story of You – Type Six - The Loyalist
Ice Breaker
What fears or phobias to you have, if any? Or as a child did you have a fear that you have since out grown?
This week’s sermon was focused on Gideon as an example of the Enneagram Type 6 – The Loyalist. The following questions are to help us understand The Loyalist, ourselves and God better.
From Sermon Notes: The Loyalist wants to be safe and avoid risk. Being sure I made the right decision is almost impossible.
- Read Judges 6:1-23.
- What was the condition of the Israelites and why? (Judges 6:1-6)
- What was Gideon doing when he met the angel of the Lord? How did the angel of the Lord describe Gideon? (Judges 6:11-12) How did Gideon describe himself? (Judges 6:15)
- How did the angel of the Lord encourage Gideon? (Judges 6:14, 16, 20-23)
- Read Judges 6: 33-40:
- Even though Gideon had received God’s assurance that God would be with him (Judges 6:16), why do you think Gideon tested God with the fleece?
- In what ways does Gideon show the characteristics of the Loyalist?
From Sermon Notes: The Loyalist reflects God’s faithfulness. How do you need to be real with God? Acknowledge God’s faithfulness and loyalty to you.
- Read Judges 6:24-35
- How did Gideon acknowledge God’s faithfulness?
- How did Gideon demonstrate his faithfulness to God?
- What did Gideon’s dad do to demonstrate his faithfulness to both Gideon and God?
- Was there a time that you had to stand up for your child’s action or a time when a parent or other adult stood up for you?
- Galatians 6:2 “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” What are ways this Circle group can support and demonstrate loyalty to each other in what Christ has called them to? How can gossip or critical talk undermine that support?”
- Describe the faithfulness of God. (Ex. 34:6; Deut. 4:31; Acts 13:32,33; Rom. 8:31-39, 1 Cor 1:7-9, 1 John 1:9)
- What is God’s response to those who are faithful? (Psalms 31:33, Matthew 10:22, Luke 16:10; Revelation 2:10)
From Sermon Notes: When healthy, Loyalists: Able to determine character in people they encounter. Are reliable, loyal, trustworthy, compassionate and good planners. The Loyalist desires to see the world as a safer place.
- How does God test Gideon’s loyalty and trust? (Read Judges 7:1-8)
- Why are Loyalists important to the church and the Body of Christ?
From Sermon Notes: When Unhealthy, Loyalists: See only potential risk and danger. Life is dictated by fear and anxiety. Don’t trust people causing them to avoid new experiences and sabotage relationships.
- How does God help Gideon overcome his fear? (Judges 7:9-15, Judges 6:22-24)
- Can you recall a time when you were distraught or fearful that God provided insight or peace to get you through?
- If you are a Six, what can you do to overcome paralyzing fear? If you are not a Six, how can you encourage those who are fearful of current or future events or circumstances?
From Sermon Notes: The Loyalist’s core sin: Fear. With their time, their knowledge, their emotions and their money. The healthy Loyalist is always in pursuit of courage and trusting God, themselves and eventually others. Joshua 1:9
- Read Judges 7:16-25 How did Gideon overcome his fear and pursue courage?
- Imagine being one of the 300 left, would you follow the lead of Gideon? Why or why not? Can you recall a time you followed someone into a risky situation because you trusted their leadership? What made that person trustworthy?
- How did God use Gideon’s loyalty to restore His sovereignty over the Israelites? (Judges 8:22,28)
- Where in your life to you need to demonstrate courage this week?
From the Sermon: How do I love a LOYALIST?
- Be secure and consistent – tell the truth.
- Thank them for their loyalty to you.
- Encourage them to be courageous.
- Fiercely support them when they are right.
- Lovingly correct them when they are paranoid.
Praise God for Sixes because: You will stick with the body of Christ even in the most difficult times. We can count on you to provide consistency and support. At your best you provide courage and faithfulness to God when others may want to fall away or give up. Since you are committed to the long-term you will step up to provide planning, management and leadership.
The story of you only makes sense within the big story of God.
The Story of You - Type Five - the Investigator
Ice Breaker: In what topic area do others come to you for advice or help?
Read John 3:1-18
What the text says.
- What information do we learn about Nicodemus in the passage? (John 3:1, 10)
- What does Nicodemus base his understanding of Jesus on? (John 3:2)
- What two ideas about birth are Jesus and Nicodemus thinking about?
- What point is Jesus making by comparing spiritual birth to the wind?
- What does Jesus claim about himself? (John 3:12-15)
- What does Jesus say about God? What is the result of belief? (John 3:16-17)
What does the text mean?
- What does it mean to be born again? (John 3:6, 16; 1 Peter 1:3, 23; Titus 3:5-7) Is it possible to know Scripture and attend church and still not have a saving faith? Why or why not?
- Why does the passage say that those who do not believe stand condemned already? (John 3:18; Romans 3:23; Romans 6:23; 1 John 5:12)
This week’s sermon was focused on Nicodemus as an example of the Enneagram Type 5 – The Investigator. The following questions are to help us understand The Investigator, ourselves and God better.
- From Sermon Notes: The Investigator reflects God’s wisdom. The Investigator wants to gain knowledge. They want to uncover truth. The Investigator wants to avoid incompetence. How do you need to be real with God? You need to get out of your head and in touch with your feelings.
- In what ways does Nicodemus show the characteristics of the Investigator?
- Describe the wisdom of God. How is it different than secular wisdom? (Job 28:28; Prov 2:6; Col 2:8,20; James 1:5; 3:13-17)
- How does Jesus challenge what Nicodemus thinks he knows versus believes? (John 3:3,11-12)
- What is the difference between knowledge and belief? (2 Tim 3:7; Heb 11:1; 1 Corinthians 1:20-21) How can the desire for knowledge and truth keep people from their need for faith?
- When did you first believe in your heart rather than just know in your head that Jesus saved you from condemnation to have eternal life?
- From Sermon Notes: When Healthy, Investigators: Remain calm and focused when making decisions and processing. Very thoughtful and their knowledge in multiple areas makes them incredibly perceptive. Insightful and observant, they want the world to be less chaotic and a more organized
- How does Nicodemus try to use his knowledge and reason to keep the Pharisees from making a mistake? Does it work? (John 7:50-53)
- Why are Investigators important to the church and the Body of Christ? (Ephesians 4:14-16; 1 Peter 3:15)
- From Sermon Notes: When Unhealthy: Shifts from being observant to detached. Does not engage emotionally or socially in healthy ways. Avoiding incompetence can cause them to withdraw completely from the world around them.
- If you are a Five, what can you do to make yourself engage both physically and emotionally with others? If you are not a Five, how can you engage those you know who would rather retreat into themselves, cell phones or their home?
- From Sermon Notes: The underlying fear of the Investigator is being insufficient. The Investigator’s core sin: Greed or stinginess - with their time, their knowledge, their emotions and their money. The healthy Five is always in pursuit of generosity.
- What is the result of stinginess? (Proverbs 28:27; 1 John 3:17; James 2:14-16)
- What is God’s response to our generosity? (Psalm 41:1; 2 Cor 9:7; Hebrews 6:10; 13:16; 2 Corinthians 8:7)
- How does what Nicodemus did in John 19:38-42 demonstrate his generosity of time, knowledge, emotion and money?
- What is at least one way you can give of your time, talents, and treasure to bless others this week?
From the Sermon: How do I love an INVESTIGATOR?
- Acknowledge their need for personal space and time.
- Express how much it means to you when they engage.
- Don’t criticize how they have fun.
- Utilize their knowledge and wisdom.
Praise God for Fives because: You provide knowledge and wisdom to the body of Christ. You learn deeply and provide teaching that keeps us grounded to the Word of God. You are prepared to give an answer to your faith. You are a resource for various activities and ministries and will do the necessary research to find the best answers. Thank God for you!
The story of you only makes sense within the big story of God.
The Story of You – Type Four - The Individualist
Ice Breaker
(Host/Leader: Provide 2 slips of paper for each person in the group. Have them write down on each piece something unique, different or unknown about themselves that the others in the group would not know. Put the slips into a bowl, draw randomly and read aloud the uniqueness. See if the group can guess who it might belong to.)
This week’s sermon was focused on King Saul as an example of the Enneagram Type 4 – The Individualist. The following questions are to help us understand The Individualist and ourselves better.
1. From Sermon Notes: The Individualist reflects God’s uniqueness. Their core need is to be unique. The 4’s do not want leadership, they want to make a difference. The Individualist avoids being basic.
- Read 1 Samuel 10:17-24- What does the text say?
- Why did Samuel agree to anoint a king for Israel?
- What was Saul’s response to being chosen?
- What did Samuel say about Saul?
- What was the response of the people to Saul being chosen?
- How is God unique? (Note: There are many answers and scriptures to this question. Here are a few ideas -Exodus 9:13-14; 15:11, Psalm 83:18, 89:6-8, Jeremiah 10:6-7, John 1:1-4, 14)
- How was Saul unique? (1 Samuel 10:9-11, 23)
- How does the indwelling of the Holy Spirit make the Christian unique? How should that reality affect how we interact with the world around us? (Mark 13:11, John 14:26, Acts 1:8, 1 Cor 6:19-20, Eph 4:29-32)
2. During Saul’s early years (approximately 22 years of his 40-year reign, he led Israel as a healthy 4 and in the power of the Holy Spirit. Healthy Individualists use their gifts, talents and unique perspective to benefit the church and the world. They enlist talented people to contribute to the work they do. They are creative and enjoy beauty.
- Read 1 Sam 14:52 – As a leader, why is it important to surround yourself with capable people?
- How has God, through the Holy Spirit, designed the church with the principle of engaging people where they are gifted, (1 Cor 12:18-20, 2 Cor 9:8-9, Heb 13:20-21, Rom 12:5-8)
- What can we do to become capable to do the good works that God has prepared for us to do? (Eph 2:10, Colossians 1:10, Hebrews 10:24, 2 Timothy 2:19-21, 2 Timothy 3:16-17)
3. From Sermon Notes: The Individualist sees what’s missing. How do you need to be real with God? You cannot be ruled by your emotions.
- Read 1 Sam 13:8-14 What did Saul do that violated the command of the Lord? (1 Sam 10:8) What was his excuse? How did his feelings and emotions affect his decision?
- Can you think of a time that you listened to your feelings instead of doing what you knew to be the right thing to do?
- What strategies can we use to keep our emotions from overwhelming our devotion to God and doing what is right?
4. The underlying fear of the Individualist is being unnoticed. The Individualist’s core sin: Envy. The Individualist’s transformation: Gratitude. Be content with who God made you to be. Recognize your value through God’s perspective.
- Read 1 Sam 18:5-9 Why did Saul become jealous of David?
- How does comparison affect our relationships with others?
- What can be done to avoid comparison? (Psalm 139:14-16,1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, Proverbs 27:2, Eph 4:6)
5. From the Sermon: How do I love an INDIVIDUALIST?
- Don’t put them in a box.
- Enjoy and appreciate how deeply they feel
- Point out how their uniqueness has blessed you.
- Challenge them to feel but not be led by their feelings.
- Enjoy the ride, they will be different than everyone else.
Praise God for Fours because: You provide creativity and emotional considerations to the Kingdom of God. You help the church to see what is lacking and uniquely understand what is needed. You provide insight and ideas that only a unique thinker can provide. You will help to recruit talented people to make a difference. Thank God for you!
The story of you only makes sense within the big story of God.
The Story of You - Type 3 - The Achiever
Ice Breaker
What honor, award, or achievement would you say is your greatest accomplishment? What did you have to do to earn it?
This week’s sermon was focused on the rich young ruler as an example of the Enneagram Type 3 – The Achiever. The following questions are to help us understand The Achiever and ourselves better.
Read Mark 10:17-27
1. What did the rich young ruler want from Jesus? (Mark 10:17)
From Sermon Notes: Achievers are constantly thinking about the future. The achiever’s inner need – to achieve. The Achiever reflects God’s hope. The beauty of the Achiever: They're not limited to what we see in the world. They see things that aren't.
- How are Achievers valuable to the Kingdom of God and His church?
- How can we support the Achievers in our lives and the church to be empowered to be successful?
- How can we love the Achiever in our lives? (See Sermon Notes)
2. Why do you think Jesus started with what appears to be a mild rebuke? (Mark 10:18) and then continues with some of the ten commandments? (Roman 3:19-20)
3. How did the young man see himself? (Mark 10:20, 22)
From Sermon Notes: Achievers want to make a difference. The motivation of Achievers: To be successful. It's hard for an Achiever to be real. The Achiever’s core sin: Lying.
- How was the rich young ruler lying to himself?
- Do you find it easy or difficult to see your own flaws and to be honest with yourself?
- What strategies could you employ to remain real with yourself and others? In what way could your circle group and accountability partners help you to deal honestly with yourself and others?
From Sermon Notes: The underlying emotion of the Achiever is shame.
- How did the rich young ruler respond when he could not earn eternal life?
- How do you respond when you are unsuccessful or when things appear difficult?
- Why is perseverance important in the Christian walk? (Romans 5:3–5, Hebrews 12:1–3; James 1:2–4)
4. How did Jesus show him that he is placing his value in the wrong place? (Mark 10:19,21, Matthew 6:19-21, 1 Timothy 6:17-19)
- How can an achievement and future focus become detrimental to yourself, others and the church? How can it affect your relationship with God?
- In what areas in your life have you put too much value in the wrong place? What have you done or could you do to shift your priorities?
5. Did Jesus say that he had to sell everything to gain eternal life? Why or why not?
- Why is it hard for the rich, or anyone, to enter the kingdom of God? (Mark 10:23, 24, 27)
- Who then can be saved? (Mark 10:21, 27; Hebrews 7:24–25; Romans 10:8–10)
Praise God for threes because: There's no compelling vision without you. There's bigger Kingdom impact with you. You see how ministry can be done. You have big faith. You’re ambitious for people seeing hope in Jesus. You sacrifice greatly. Thank God for you!
The story of you only makes sense within the big story of God.
The Story of You - Enneagram Type 2 - The Helper
Conversation Starters
Share a time when you became so wrapped up in something urgent that you missed something that was really important.
Review
Read Luke 10:38-42 (What does the text say?)
- What did Martha do for Jesus and the Disciples? What did Mary do?
- Why was Martha distracted? Why was Martha worried and upset?
- What was Martha’s expectation for her sister? What was Martha’s expectation of Jesus?
- What did Jesus want Martha to do? How did Jesus view Mary’s choice?
This week’s sermon focused on the response of Martha as an example of the Enneagram Type 2 – The Helper. The following questions are to help us understand The Helper and ourselves better.
The Helper – Reflects God’s heart for service.
- In what way did Martha’s actions reflect God’s heart for service? (Mark 10:45, Luke 22:27)
- What are ways we can show our gratitude to those who serve us?
- What are ways we can share God’s heart through service?
The Helper believes everybody should be serving like they are. The focus of the Helper – The needs of others.
- In what way did Martha’s actions reveal her own heart? (1 Peter 4:9-10)
- How do you feel when you are working on a project with other people and some of the people appear not to be helping? How should we respond in such a circumstance? (Philippians 2:14-15, 2 Corinthians 9:7)
- How do you respond when someone complains about you or goes to your boss to get you to do something different than what you feel you should be doing?
- If everybody does not serve like a Helper, how should everyone be serving? (Romans 12:4-8, 11)
The Helper’s inner need – to be needed. When unhealthy, Helpers avoid their own needs.
“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:41-42)
- What do you think is the “one thing” that is needed? In what ways was Martha avoiding her own need? Do you think Jesus was telling Martha that she should not be serving?
- The Helper may be tempted to serve rather than worship or fellowship. (1 Corinthians 13:3, 1 John 5:12, Hebrew 10:25). What steps can we take to make sure that we are not neglecting the “things that are needed”?
- What can the Helper do to avoid being overworked and abused by people who would rather have others do what they should be doing?
The core sin: Pride.
- How do you respond when others want to thank you or even pay you for your help? How could pride keep us from accepting help or expressing gratitude?
- How can pride affect building positive relationships?
The motivation of Helpers: To feel loved.
- There is an old saying, “If you want to get something done ask a busy person.” In what way do we abuse the Helper in our midst? What can we do to help the Helper from being abused or overworked?
- What can we do to love the Helper? (See sermon notes for some ideas.)
Praise God for Twos because: There's no Sun Grove Church without you. There's no Kingdom of God without you. You serve, you give your time. You show up. You build, you do above and beyond what is needed. You sacrifice. Thank God for you!
The Story of You only makes sense within the big story of God.
The Story of You – Enneagram Type 1 – The Reformer
Enneagram Type 1 – The Reformer – Circle Group Questions
Ice Breaker: What was the biggest or most memorable party your family has ever thrown?
Read Luke 15:11-32 – The Parable of the Two Sons
What was the response of the father in the story to the younger son’s request? (Luke 15:11-12)
What did the younger son do with the inheritance? (Luke 15:13-19)
What was the response of the Father upon the younger son’s return? (Luke 15:20-24)
What was the response of the older son upon his brother’s return? (Luke 15:25-30)
What was the response of the father to the older son? (Luke 15:28,31-32)
This week’s sermon focused on the response of the older son as an example of the Enneagram Type 1 – The Reformer. The following questions are to help us understand The Reformer better and consider issues common to all of us through God’s Word.
You’re kind of a perfectionist. You want the world to be a better place and you see flaws.
Where was the older son and how did he learn about his brother’s return? (25)
The Reformer – They do the right thing, they get stuff done, they're the good person.
The value of Reformers: You can show others the goodness of God.
What is the benefit to the church to have Reformers in the body of Christ?
How can these attributes contribute to the Kingdom of God? (Matthew 5:16; 1 Peter 2:9,12)
Why was the older son angry with his father? (Luke 15:29-30)
Core motivation: You want to be perfect. The desire for perfection will ruin you.
The core sin: Anger.
Was there a time when you felt that you were treated unfairly by a parent, boss, teacher or other? What happened?
How do you, personally, handle your anger to keep from hurting others or yourself? What do you do when you respond inappropriately?
What should be done when we feel angry? (Ephesians 4:2, 26-27; Romans 12:19-21; James 1:19)
How did the older son feel about his brother? (30) How did the older brother feel about himself? (29) Does the passage imply that the older son is questioning his father’s wisdom?
What darkness is God calling out of the Reformer? Can you trust God? Is God really good? Is God an idiot too?
(From Sermon) The problem is that kind of anger comes from self-righteousness. Self-righteousness is believing that you are right within yourself. Righteousness comes from God. Only God is truly right. Only God is truly good. (See Ecclesiastes 7:20; Mark 10:18; Romans 3:10-12)
What strategies should we implement to avoid believing that we are right within ourselves. (Matthew 6:33, Eph 2:8-10, Romans 12:3)
What did the father in the story want the older son to do? (Luke 15:28, 31-32)
How does our Father in Heaven respond to our sin and imperfections? (Psalm 86:15, Col 2:13, Ephesians 1:7)
How should we respond to the sin and imperfections of others? (Matthew 18:21, Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:13) How should we respond to the sin and imperfections of ourselves?
How should we respond if we have offended someone else? (Matthew 5:23)
Consider, is there anyone whom you have not forgiven or apologized to that keeps you from reconciliation and enjoying fellowship with them?
Praise God for Type 1’s because: There's no Sun Grove Church without you. There's no Kingdom without you. You serve, you give your time. You show up. You build, you do the right thing. When everybody else is doing the unwise thing. Thank God for you! God loves you perfectly and he’s inviting you to love others in the same way.
The story of you only makes sense within the big story of God.
Why a Series Called “The Story of You”?
Icebreaker
Money being no object, what would you do to pamper yourself?
- (Matthew 22:34-40), Who does Jesus tell us to love? Why do you think Jesus calls them the greatest commandments?
- Genesis 3:1-11 What was the difference in Adam and Eve’s response to their nakedness, before eating the fruit and after? (vs 7, 8, 10)?
How does our sin, the sin of others, shame, vulnerability, hurt and fear affect how we react to God? How does it affect our relationships with each other? How does it affect how we treat our self?
What was God’s response to their sin? (9, 11) How does this show that God is relational? What is God’s response to our sins? (Romans 5:8, 2 Cor 5:21, Hebrews 9:27-28, 1 John 4:10)
- Read Matthew 6:22-23: How does sin affect how we perceive the world around us?How does sin affect how we respond to or process events and information?
How does sin affect how others interpret our response to events and information?
Can you think of a time when you and someone else witnessed the same event and saw it completely differently?
In what way does scripture help us to counteract the effects of sin on our perception? (Romans 12:2, 2 Tim 3:16-17)
- Why is it important for us to discover what is in our hearts; the good, the bad and the ugly? (Psalm 139:23-24, Psalm 119:29-30)
- How does having a relationship with Jesus help us to confront our sin and restore our relationships with God, others and our self? (John 8:31-32, Ephesians 3:12 and Hebrews 4:15-16)
How can understanding ourselves better, help us to build better relationships with God, each other, and our self?
Stop, Look & Listen
Sermon Notes
People need JESUS + Help = WHOLENESS.
1. People HINT that they need help before they ASK for it. They throw out a touch.
I don’t want to be a burden. She wanted help, but mistook a critical fact. People need Jesus + Help = Wholeness.
2. STOP.
3. LOOK.
We look for the question or cry behind the COMMENT, CRISIS or NEED.
4. LISTEN.
STOP, LOOK & LISTEN to give hope in Jesus.
Planning the Journey Ahead
Your Spiritual Growth may not be linear, nor will it be complete until you are with Jesus in Heaven. Spiritual Growth is a journey that involves Identity, Formation, Community and Mission. God will use each of these at different times in your life to mature you. Your growth may be in one or more areas at a time and your journey will be different than any others’. God’s goal is that “we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.” (Ephesians 4:13)
Circle Group Questions
Ice Breaker – Share an occasion when someone stopped what they were doing to help you in a time of need.
Share one of your Personal Reflections from the week.
Read Mark 5:21-34.
What immediate mission was Jesus on? (Mark 5:21-24)
What was the woman in the crowd seeking? (Mark 5:25-29)
Jesus did three things once he was aware of the need. How did Jesus do these three things?
1. Stop:
2. Look:
3. Listen:
What keeps others from seeking our “touch” or help in times of need? How can we give them permission to reach out? How can we communicate that we are available and approachable?
What distractions keep us from seeing the needs of others? How can the urgency of our lives, work, or even ministry keep us from seeing the needs of the people around us? How can we become more aware?
When you are in need, who do you reach out to? What keeps us from reaching out to others? What keeps us from reaching out to Jesus?
People need Jesus + Help = Wholeness.
Why is only Help not enough?
What are examples of ways we can Help others with their immediate needs while directing them to find Jesus for Wholeness (both now and forever)?
Discuss in your Circle Group how this study has impacted your lives and the group. Hebrews 10:24 says, “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works” How can we do this?
Personal Reflections
Sunday
What stood out to you from today’s sermon? What teaching can you apply this week? What Reflections did you apply last week?
Monday
“People need Jesus + Help = Wholeness.” How has this been true in your life? How can you provide help to others in Jesus’ name?
Tuesday – Reflect
At once Jesus realized that power had gone out from him. He turned around in the crowd and asked, “Who touched my clothes?”
Mark 5:30
How can you stop and be more aware of the people around you who are looking for help or healing?
Wednesday – Reflect
“You see the people crowding against you,” his disciples answered, “and yet you can ask, ‘Who touched me?’” But Jesus kept looking around to see who had done it.
Mark 5:31-32
What distracts you from seeing the needs around you? How can you slow down to see what is truly important?
Thursday – Reflect
Then the woman, knowing what had happened to her, came and fell at his feet and, trembling with fear, told him the whole truth. He said to her, “Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering.”
Mark 5:33–34
How can you combine physical help with spiritual help when supporting others?
Friday
Consider the stages of Identity, Formation, Community and Mission. Where is God growing you today? In which areas do you need more growth?
Saturday
In which areas of your life have you refused to grow? Pray: Lord, I ask that you show me how I can open myself to the work you want to do in me.
Breaking Entitlement Activates Mission
Sermon Notes
1. Entitlement says, “I DESERVE.”
I deserve…a comment on my social networking picture because I liked yours.
I deserve…to be happy.
I deserve…to be able to text my friends…even in class…or while driving.
I deserve…my parent, my school, job or the government to bail me out financially.
I deserve…to be able to try and do it all, even though my day runs out of hours.
I deserve…more vacation and less responsibility.
I deserve…to borrow your stuff and never return it.
I deserve…to be unhappy and fussy because feelings should be expressed.
I deserve…to party and hook up and get my needs met.
I deserve…to buy myself something new because…well, I deserve it.
I deserve…to see any video clip or movie regardless of rating or content.
I deserve…to point out what you did wrong and conceal my part in it.
I deserve… to get into Heaven whether I believe in Jesus or not.
We find, “The more I focus on me, the more unhappy I’ll be.”
Those expecting God to accomplish their Mission, get off Mission.
2. Those who resist entitlement go from DEMANDING help to DELIVERING help. They get back ON Mission.
3. Those who go from “I DESERVE” to “I SERVE” find that their joy increases.
Circle Group Questions
Ice Breaker – Describe a time when you demonstrated entitlement.
Share one of your Personal Reflections from the week.
Read Luke 4:16-30.
What type of miracle were the people of Nazareth wanting from Jesus?
What miraculous event were they ignoring?
Why didn’t Jesus perform miracles in Nazareth like he did in other places?
What was the response when they found out that they were not going to get what they wanted?
Pastor Dave said, “Those expecting God to accomplish their Mission, get off Mission.” Do you agree? How can our expectation of what God is going to do get in the way of seeing what God is actually doing? (See James 4:1-3.)
How did Jesus respond to what he could have felt he was entitled to? How can we learn from his example? (See Philippians 2:3-8 on page 44).
How has God empowered us to avoid feelings of entitlement? (See Hebrews 2:14-15 and James 4:7-10.)
In what ways does the world try to convince us that we are entitled to pleasing ourselves and to having what we want? How is that the same as the lie the serpent told Eve in Genesis 3:5 “You will be like God”? What are practical ways to break entitlement in our lives?
Personal Reflections
Sunday
What stood out to you from today’s sermon? What teaching can you apply this week? What Reflections did you apply last week?
Monday
In what areas do you think “I Deserve”? How can you focus less on your self?
Tuesday – Reflect
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
James 4:1–3
What desires cause battles within me? How do they affect my relationships with others?
Wednesday – Reflect on Matthew 20:1–16
What, in your circumstances, appears to be unfair? How is God using this for your benefit? For the benefit of others?
Thursday – Reflect
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Philippians 2:3–4
In what ways do you consider yourself better than others? What practical ways can you teach yourself to consider the interests of others?
Friday – Reflect
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death—even death on a cross!
Philippians 2:5–8
How can you humble yourself and be sacrificial to others in your life? In the world around you?
Saturday
Consider: Rather than focusing on your agenda and wants, how can you get on Mission with God? Where can you serve? What can you give?
Invite Unlikely People
Sermon Notes
1. Are we focused on REACHING people more than simply KEEPING people?
2. Look for people OUTSIDE the church to intentionally INCLUDE in the body of Christ.
When someone is intentionally INCLUDED, and
is transformed by Jesus, they instinctively give to RESTORE where they have broken community with others.
3. I played SOME PART in someone crossing the line of FAITH.
Circle Group Questions
Ice Breaker – Have you ever had a close friend who was completely different than you? In what way? What made you friends?
Share one of your Personal Reflections from the week.
Read Luke 19:1-10
How was Jesus different than Zacchaeus?
Why did the crowd mutter against Jesus?
How was Jesus’ response different than “all the people” expected? How was Zacchaeus’ response different than expected?
Who was seeking whom in this story? (see Luke 19:3-5, 10)
When befriending others who are different than we are, how does Jesus’ example show us who to reach out to?
Why was Jesus so attractive to people who were unlike him? What are ways we can both be true to who we are in Christ and be attractive to those who are not like us?
How is your life different because of your response to Jesus? Who around you deliberately rejects Community or appears not to be looking for Jesus?
Pastor Dave commented, “A common thread among people who become saved is the existence of a friend who nagged them to go to church or youth group or a church Christmas event.” When was a time you were far from Jesus? What brought you to Him or back to Him?
What intentional ways can we reach out to those who appear to be far from Jesus?
Personal Reflections
Sunday
What stood out to you from today’s sermon? What teaching can you apply this week? What Reflections did you apply last week?
Monday
Honestly, are you open to being around people who are not like you? Where in your life can you reach out to people who are different than you?
Tuesday – Reflect
While Jesus was having dinner at Levi’s house, many tax collectors and sinners were eating with him and his disciples, for there were many who followed him. When the teachers of the law who were Pharisees saw him eating with the sinners and tax collectors, they asked his disciples: “Why does he eat with tax collectors and sinners?” On hearing this, Jesus said to them, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”
Mark 2:15–17
How can you love people instead of judging people? How can you be intentional this week to engage with those who need Christ?
Wednesday – Reflect
But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.
1 Peter 3:15–16
Are you prepared to give the reason for the hope you have? What can you do to be prepared to share Jesus with others?
Thursday – Reflect
Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.
Colossians 4:5–6
How can you make the most of every opportunity? What does being “full of grace, seasoned with salt” mean in your context?
Friday – Reflect
How beautiful on the mountains are the feet of those who bring good news, who proclaim peace, who bring good tidings, who proclaim salvation, who say to Zion, “Your God reigns!”
Isaiah 52:7
What are practical ways you can bring good news to others?
Saturday
Who in your life should you engage and invite to church? Or Circle Group? Or into a discussion about Christ?
No One Matures Alone
Sermon Notes
“Your friends determine the direction and quality of your life.” – Pastor Andy Stanley
1. What is the job of the Bible? To equip you for every good work.
2. No one who follows Christ matures alone.
What is the job of community and the church?
To stir up one another to love and good works. (Hebrews 10:24-25)
3. What is the job of the pastors and teachers?
To equip you for good works of service. (Ephesians 4:11-13)
The job of the Word, of Pastors, Teachers & Community is the SAME job!
4. What is the job of our good work? So that others will give glory to our Father in Heaven. (Matthew 5:16)
Circle Group Questions
Ice Breaker – Who has been the greatest influence in your life?
Share one of your Personal Reflections from the week.
Read Mark 1:16-20, Mark 2:13-14, Mark 3:13-19. What type of people did Jesus call? Pastor Dave said, “Jesus was the secret weapon to mature those people he chose to be in community with.” What does this mean?
How does seeing who Jesus chose to carry the Gospel to the world give us confidence that we can be used by Him also?
How does seeing who Jesus chose to carry the Gospel to the world help us to accept and love others in our church and community even though they are different?
How does the presence of Jesus in our lives lead us to spiritual maturity? (Colossians 2:6-7)
Pastor Dave’s main idea is that no one matures alone. God has provided all the resources we need to mature in Christ.
How is the Bible useful for spiritual maturity? (See 2 Timothy 3:16-17 on page 31.)
How are pastors and teachers useful for spiritual maturity, both individual and corporate? (See Ephesians 4:11-13 on page 31.)
How is meeting together as a church and in Circle Groups important for Spiritual Growth? (See Hebrews 10:24-25 on page 32.)
What keeps us from maturing as Christians?
What is God’s goal for our maturity? (Philippians 3:13-14)
Consider the formula InFORMATION + Application = TransFORMATION. How can your group “spur one another on toward love and good deeds”? (Hebrews 10:24)
Personal Reflections
Sunday
What stood out to you from today’s sermon? What teaching can you apply this week? What Reflections did you apply last week?
Monday – Reflect
All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.
2 Timothy 3:16–17
How does God’s Word help me to mature? What good work am I being equipped for?
Tuesday – Reflect
It was he who gave some to be apostles, some to be prophets, some to be evangelists, and some to be pastors and teachers, to prepare God’s people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up.
Ephesians 4:11–12
How does Christian leadership help you to mature? How can your acts of service build up the body of Christ?
Wednesday – Reflect
So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.
Ephesians 4:11–13
How am I growing in faith, knowledge and maturity? What does it mean to me to attain the whole measure of Christ?
Thursday – Reflect
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another…
Hebrews 10:24–25
What am I doing to spur others to love and good deeds? How can I intentionally be encouraging to others this week?
Friday – Reflect
And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God.
Philippians 1:9–11
How is God calling me to pursue spiritual maturity?
Saturday
How can I actively use fellowship with Jesus, the Word of God, my relationships and the church to help me grow in Christ? How can I help others grow in their maturity?
Walking on Water
Sermon Notes
Two things: Being in PAIN and being POWERLESS will inevitably expose our immature, childish images of God.
| CHILDISH FAITH | MATURE FAITH |
| Good Christians don’t have pain or disappointment. | God uses our pain and disappointment to make us better Christians. (2 Corinthians 1:4) |
| God helps those who help themselves. | God helps those who admit their own helplessness. (John 15:5) |
| God wants to make us happy. | God wants to make us in the image of Jesus. (Philippians 2:5-8) |
| Faith will help us always explain what God is doing and things always work out. | Faith helps us stand under God’s sovereignty even when we have no idea what God is doing. (Job 13:15) |
| The closer we get to God the more perfect we become. | The closer we get to God, the more we become aware of our own sinfulness. (Romans 7:24-25) |
| Mature Christians have answers. | Mature Christians can wrestle honestly with tough questions because we trust that God has the answers. (1 Corinthians 13:12) |
| Good Christians are always strong. | Our strength is in admitting our weaknesses and our need for others. (2 Corinthians 12:9-11) |
| Strong emotional experiences are deeper spiritually. | We test every spirit and wind of teaching, as we worship emotionally in spirit balanced by truth. (1 John 4:1) |
| We go to church because our friends are there, we have great leaders, and we get something out of it. | We go to church because we are the body of Christ, and we are spiritual contributors. We celebrate and serve. (Hebrews 10:24-25) |
Circle Group Questions
Ice Breaker – Share a time you took a big risk, and experienced a step-out-of-the-boat-and-walk-on-water faith moment.
Share one of your Personal Reflections from the week.
Read Matthew 14:22-33.
Pastor Dave pointed out that, “Peter wanted to make a splash and not take a splash.” How can our desire to look important get in the way of seeing God at work? How did Jesus respond to Peter’s bold actions?
Was Peter the only one with little faith? Why or why not? How can fear get in the way of seeing God at work? How did Jesus reassure them not to be afraid?
Peter’s reaction to the wind was to doubt Jesus and the reality of the impossible. How can doubt get in the way of seeing God at work? How did Jesus respond to Peter’s doubt?
How does Jesus react to us when we are acting out of self-importance, fear, or doubt? Which of these is most likely to keep you from acting in faith? How can these lessons lead to spiritual formation?
Read 2 Corinthians 4:5. How does “preaching ourselves” and “serving ourselves” get in the way of spiritual formation? What is the alternative? How can you refocus?
InFORMATION + Application = TransFORMATION. Spiritual Formation happens over time when we apply what we learn. God is giving us opportunity to grow through life experiences to become more like Christ. What are some ways He is doing this?
2 Corinthians 12:10 (When I am weak, then I am strong)
Hebrews 12:5-11 (Fatherly discipline)
Ephesians 4:11-12 (Pastors and teachers)
2 Timothy 3:16-17 (Through God’s Word)
1 Thessalonians 5:11 (Build each other up)
In what way is God inviting you to draw near to Him in the midst of the hardships you are facing? How can the members of the Circle Group pray for you?
Personal Reflections
Sunday
What stood out to you from today’s sermon? What teaching can you apply this week? What Reflections did you apply last week?
Monday – Reflect
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
When has God comforted you? Who can you extend God’s comfort to this week?
Tuesday – Reflect
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.”
John 15:5
How can you remain connected to God?
Wednesday – Reflect
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death—even death on a cross!
Philippians 2:5-8
When do you have an opportunity to demonstrate the attitude of a servant?
Thursday – Reflect
“Though He slay me, yet will I hope in Him.”
Job 13:15
Where do you truly find your hope?
Friday – Reflect
What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God—through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in the sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.
Romans 7:24-25
When do you feel conflicted about God’s law and the law of sin?
Saturday
Choose one growth area from the Faith Chart and pray for God to bring you to mature faith in this area.
Satan Tempts Jesus
Sermon Notes
InFORMATION + APPLICATION = TransFORMATION.
Three ways Satan tries to stop spiritual progress:
1. Satan appeals to your FLESH.
“…tell these stones to become bread.” (Matthew 4:3)
You’re tempted to STOP the good and serve yourself.
2. Satan appeals to POSITION.
“If you are the Son of God, throw yourself down…” (Matthew 4:6)
You’re tempted to DEFEND your pride.
3. Satan appeals to your VALUE.
“All this I will give you, if you will bow down and worship me.” (Matthew 4:9)
You’re tempted to place your value in THINGS.
Circle Group Questions
Ice Breaker – What bad habit or compulsion did you have when you were younger that you no longer struggle with? What happened to change it?
Share one of your Personal Reflections from the week.
Pastor Dave pointed out, “When people are asked why they don’t believe in God, the number one answer is, ‘Suffering.’ When Christians are asked when they grew the most in their lives, the number one answer is, ‘Suffering.’” Do you find this to be true in your experience? Share an example from your own life.
Read Matthew 4:1-11
Jesus was tempted by Satan, but He resisted him and did not sin. How does this knowledge help us to resist temptation?
Why did Satan tempt Jesus? Why does he tempt Christians?
How did Jesus respond to Satan in the wilderness?
How is Jesus’ response to temptation similar to or different from your reaction to temptation, trial or difficulty? Share an example.
Was Jesus left alone while He was being tempted? (Matthew 4:1, 11) How does knowing that God is with us during difficult times help us to stand up to temptation?
Why does God allow us to experience difficulties, pain, temptation and disappointments?
James 1:2-3 (Testing produces perseverance and maturity.)
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 (We experience God’s comfort and we comfort others.)
2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (God’s power is revealed in our weakness.)
We learned that InFORMATION + Application = TransFORMATION. How does this knowledge help you to accept your current circumstances as God’s work in your life?
Personal Reflections
Sunday
What stood out to you from today’s sermon? What teaching can you apply this week? What Reflections did you apply last week?
Monday
“InFORMATION + Application = TransFORMATION.” How have you seen this principle at work in your own life?
Tuesday – Reflect
For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet was without sin.
Hebrews 4:15
What weaknesses can you take to Jesus with confidence that he understands?
Wednesday – Reflect
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.
1 Corinthians 10:13
What temptations can you take to God for strength to resist and provision of a way out?
Thursday – Reflect
Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.
James 4:7-10
What is this saying to you about resisting temptation today?
Friday
Consider (from the sermon) the three ways Satan tries to stop spiritual progress. Ask God to reveal which of these you are vulnerable to. Ask Him for Bible references, wisdom and power to resist Satan. (Many Bibles have a list of topical verses in the back or topics can be found online.)
Saturday
Who can use your encouragement during a difficult time? Develop an action plan to encourage them this week.
You Smell Amazing
Sermon Notes
Your identity in Jesus Christ is the aroma that God uses to point people to His reality.
Authenticity trumps self-perfection.
Passport to My Identity In Christ…
I Am Accepted
John 1:12 I am a child of God.
John 15:15 I am Jesus’ chosen friend.
Romans 5:1 I am holy and acceptable to God.
1 Cor. 3:16 I am united to the Lord.
1 Cor. 5:19-20 I have been bought with a price.
1 Cor. 12:27 I am part of Christ’s body.
Ephesians 1:1 I am a saint, a holy one.
Ephesians 1:5 I have been adopted as God’s child.
Colossians 1:14 I have been redeemed.
Colossians 2:10 I am complete in Christ.
I Am Secure
Romans 8:1-2 I am free forever from punishment.
Romans 8:28 I am sure all things work together for good.
Romans 8:31 I am free from any charges against me.
Romans 8:35 I cannot be separated from the love of God.
Ephesians 2:19 I am a citizen of Heaven.
Philippians 1:6 I am sure that the good work that God has started in me will be finished.
Colossians 3:3 I am hidden with Christ in God.
Hebrews 4:16 I can find grace and mercy in times of need.
1 John 5:18 I am born of God; the evil one can’t touch me.
I Am Significant
Matthew 5:13-14 I am salt and light for everyone around me.
John 15:1, 5 I am a part of the True Vine.
John 15:16 I am hand picked by Jesus to bear fruit.
Acts 1:8 I am a Spirit-Empowered witness to Christ.
1 Cor. 3:16, 6:19 I am a temple where the Holy Spirit lives.
2 Cor. 5:17 I am at peace with God and He has given me the work of making peace between Himself and others.
2 Cor. 6:1 I am God’s coworker.
Ephesians 2:6 I am seated with Christ in Heaven.
Ephesians 2:10 I am God’s building project, His handiwork, His masterpiece.
Philippians 4:13 I am able to do all things through Christ who gives me strength!
Circle Group Questions
Ice Breaker – What about your family (either as you were growing up or the one you are in now) makes it different, distinctive or special?
Share one of your Personal Reflections from the week.
What do the following passages say about our Identity?
John 1:12 (Child of God)
Ephesians 1:4-6 (Chosen as adopted sons)
Ephesians 2:19 (Citizens of Heaven, members of God’s household)
1 Peter 2:9 (Chosen people, royal priesthood, belonging to God)
Colossians 1:12-14 (Inheritor, rescued, in the kingdom)
As children of God, we are loved and accepted by God. How can this knowledge help us to face changes, challenges and difficulties?
Read 2 Corinthians 2:14-16. How can we be a “pleasing aroma of Christ”? How does God use our Identity in Christ as the “aroma” that points people to Him?
Pastor Dave discussed some practical ways we can be authentic (real with our faith, not perfect) in our world. What are some practical ways you can be authentic in your world?
Read the Passport to My Identity in Christ. Which truths about your Identity in Christ resonate with you? Taken as a whole, how does knowing our Identity help us to grow spiritually into the people God has designed us to be?
Personal Reflections
Sunday
What stood out to you from today’s sermon? What teaching can you apply this week? What Reflections did you apply last week?
Monday – Reflect
Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God—children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.
John 1:12-13
What does being a child of God mean to you?
Tuesday – Reflect
Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? ….. No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 8:35-39
How does this verse give you confidence to face your days?
Wednesday – Reflect
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Matthew 11:28-30
What are your current burdens? Where is true rest found?
Thursday
Reflect on what you are thankful for today.
Write your thoughts.
Friday – Reflect
“You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven.”
Matthew 5:14-16
What does it mean that you are the light of the world?
Saturday
Reflect on how God can use you to be a “pleasing aroma” to others this week.
Identity Kick Starts Spiritual Growth
Sermon Notes
1. Identity (Mark 1:11)
You are my son/daughter, whom I love; in YOU I am well pleased!
2. Formation (Mark 1:12-13)
3. Community (Mark 1:14-20)
4. Mission (Mark 1:21-28)
5. God is not so loving that He stops being just.
God is fully loving. God is fully just.
He doesn’t compromise one for the other.
Circle Group Questions
Ice Breaker – As a child or teen, what trends did you participate in to try to fit in with your peers?
Share your personal journey with God and your own Spiritual Growth with the group. (Everyone’s journey is different. Remember to honor each other’s stories.)
Share one of your Personal Reflections from the week.
Pastor Dave told the story of Harmony Dust and how her negative self-view resulted in a destructive lifestyle until she was able to embrace God’s view of her value. His challenge to us was: “It is up to us to actively replace the lies we believe with the truth.”
What lies have you told yourself?
What lies have others told you about yourself (either directly or implied)?
How have these lies negatively impacted your life?
What do Romans 12:2 and 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 say about how we can change these lies into truth?
Mark 1:9-28 shows Jesus’ progression as he developed his leadership among the disciples. Pastor Dave identifies Four Areas of Spiritual Growth:
Identity – (Mark 1:9-11) What identity was given to Jesus? How does God’s view of you affect how you view yourself?
Formation – (Mark 1:12-13) How did Jesus respond to attacks and adversity? (Matthew 4:1-11 and Luke 4:1-13). When have you grown from experiencing adversity?
Community – (Mark 1:14-20) Jesus chose people to share his ministry journey. How do our friends help determine the direction and quality of our lives?
Mission – (Mark 1:21-28) Jesus began his teaching ministry. Pastor Dave said, “Mission is not earning favor, it is expressing the favor we have already received.” What is your reaction to this definition of Mission? How does it translate in our lives?
Which of these areas of Spiritual Growth do you most identify with at this time? Why? (Keep in mind that this is an ongoing process, not always experienced in order. Each stage may be encountered many times in a lifetime.)
Personal Reflections
Sunday
What stood out to you from today’s sermon? What teaching can you apply this week?
Monday
Who in your life has had the greatest impact in shaping you as a person? In what way? What have you learned from this experience?
Tuesday
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Romans 12:2
Are you more likely to follow the world or God’s Word?
Wednesday – Reflect
The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
2 Corinthians 10:4-5
What thoughts do you need to take captive and to make obedient to Christ?
Thursday – Reflect
And a voice came from Heaven: “You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.”
Mark 1:11
Who are you to God? How does God view you?
Friday – Reflect
See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!
1 John 3:1
How does God view you? Who are you to God?
Saturday
How can God use you to express His love to others this week?